For true success ask yourself these four questions:
Why? Why not? Why not me? Why not now?
It is said that somewhere in that super-computer we call our mind; everything we have heard, seen, felt, thought, touched, and tasted is retained. When we ask ourselves questions, we direct our subconscious mind to search that vast database, attempting to find a solution to a genuine problem, instead of trying to accept self-imposed limitations. Often, the answers are right there, all you have to do is ask! But the way you ask will be telling of the results. You must ask the question as a positive, genuinely and sincerely, while fully expecting to get an answer.
Be very aware of how you speak to yourself. Learn to change recriminating and reproachful conversations with yourself into questions that direct your focus towards positive change. Beware of questions like "How can I be so stupid? Why is the world so unfair? Why can't I be rich, too? How can anyone treat me so badly?" If you ask questions in this manner your subconscious may well provide answers that have nothing to do with reality, like "Because you are undeserving. Because you were born to lose. Because you are ignorant, worthless, and undeserving."
If the questions are loaded, they imply acceptance of a negative belief that needs to be
If you are aware of how you talk to yourself, what you ask yourself, and what you demand of yourself, you can shift the focus of your mind away from negative associations and toward positive associations simply by consciously changing the tone and focus of the statements and questions you ask yourself.